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After a While
(You Learn)
© Veronica A. Shoffstall 1971

After a while you learn the subtle difference between
holding a hand and chaining a soul.
And you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning,
and company doesn’t always mean security.
And you begin to learn that kisses are not contracts,
and present’s aren’t promises.
And you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes ahead…
With the grace of a woman,
not the grief of a child.
And you learn
To build all your roads on today,
Because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans,
and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.
After a while you learn that even sunshine burns
if you get too much…
So, you plant your own garden,
and decorate your own soul…
Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure…
you really are strong,
you really do have worth.
And you learn, and you learn…
with every goodbye,
You Learn…


  1. Erin said:

    And then you learn that MEN SUCK! You don’t need a man to feel good or to be secure! You are a strong, beautiful woman with so much to offer the world! You’ve got great kids, a great house, a great job, a great bod! Woman, you’re workin’ it! Don’t let a man be your guide when you can do it yourself and have more fun! Don’t look at this as a set-back, but rather a jumping off point to rediscovering yourself! Be selfish! Take time for you! Get your nails done, have a pedicure, get a massage, go for walks with your girls, take a trip on your own, SCRAPBOOK!!! Do the things you want to do for yourself. This is your time and you should enjoy it. I am here for you and will do anything you need to take your mind off things. There’s lots going on down here in Oct. so we’ll go do lots of stuff with the girls if you want to. We’ll talk more on Saturday (I have a special cookie for you – you’ll laugh when you see it). I love you!

    September 24, 2004
  2. beth said:

    La, I’m starting to think you have the right idea! Of course, a guess a women could break your heart just as easily as a man… but, as much as we all love companionship, when our hearts get broken, there is still someone you can’t forget about to love you… yourself! Then you can get through anything! We are all here for you and send our love south!

    September 23, 2004
  3. La said:

    Right now it hurts and it is hard but we are here for you- a place to seek solace, an ear to listen, a voice to give comfort and a family to provide love. (PS I told you it was a good thing to be a lesbian!)

    September 23, 2004

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