HELP!!! I need persuasion….

David was just offered the Riverhead, Long Island store. It is located on the far eastern side of the isalnd (probably not really close to NYC – which could be better $$ wise). This is a great opportunity for us to move home, but I am just not sure how I feel about living in Long Island.

The negatives:
– It’s probably very expensive.
– It’s not close enough to the city for me to work (which I’m not sure I would want anyway).
– There are no mountians (my favorite).
– No Whole Foods Market (place where I love and shop for organic foods, which also help me with my allergies).
– I obviousely have to move again – I hate moving. It’s costly to. 🙁
– There is no guarantee that I would get a job quickly.

The positives:
– David would be home and I could eventually go live with him (I would wait until 2005).
– We would be closer to home/family (my mom would be very happy).
– David could have his season Yankee tickets.
– We might be close to beaches (his favorite).
– We would be close to NYC (great food, shows, lots of entertainment).
– He will get a $5,000 raise (which could be negotiable for more).
– My friend Dee lives in Lindenhurst (Long Island), my friend Patty lives in Brooklyn (NYC), and his friend Chad and his wife Theresa live in Jefferson Port (Long Island).

I just don’t know. I am apprehensive to move and I’m not sure how I feel because I love it here, but my gut seems to be telling me YES. I’m not sure though… HELP!!! What do you guys think? He has to tell them in 48 hours.


  1. Hot mama said:

    Quit analyzing, go be with the man you love. That close to NYC there will be jobs. What an adventure to be that close to the Big Apple. And the only place there is not an organic store is Clyde! You also might get a job making more money.

    June 16, 2004
  2. KIm said:

    I typed my response and know I added something that did not make my post above. I cut and pasted to spell check and must not have scrolled down far enough to catch it.

    I wanted to add a congratulations to David on the job offer. We are very proud of you and happy that you will be in the good ol’ USA once more and closer to home should you decide to take the job! I know its a tough decision, but you and Erin will know what is right for your future!

    June 15, 2004
  3. beth said:

    I know change is tough luce and has always scared you, but the only thing that is constant, is change. You can’t be afraid of what lies ahead, or you will get left behind. You didn’t want to move to NC, and look where it got you! You got to experience a whole new life, new culture, new landscape (I love the mountains too), along with much else. Would have you discovered scrap booking if you had not left?? Plus, you will be very close to the Adirondack and Catskill Mountains.

    Only you can do what is right for you, but don’t be afraid to make changes! It could be a life altering decision, but with every step we make, we grow and learn a little more.

    June 14, 2004
  4. Your Mom said:

    I see it as a new opportunity, an open door. The area looks to have tons of historical draws and pluses, (beaches, lighthouses seafood, opportunity jobwise.) You are closer to home, most importantly, you and David will at long last be in the same state and hopefully the same residence. I feel God gives us things for reasons and he puts challenges and opportunity in our path when he feels we are ready. You have grown independent and strong and as much as I miss you being down south, I feel what you gained was so very important to learn. Don’t be afraid to stretch your wings and fly… soar and bask in the sun!

    As Kacie stated, you will find good things and bad things no matter where you live, but what would you do if you missed the opportunity along the way? Of course I would love to say COME HOME!!! But I think this is a decision for you and Dave to make together and one that is your first as a couple about to begin a life together. Your dad and I have the utter most confidence you and he will make the best and wisest choice for your future.

    Remember also… if it doesn’t end up being a place you like and want to live, you will always have other opportunities to move.

    I see positives Luce… Go for it!

    June 14, 2004
  5. La said:

    Every where has cool markets that sell organic- we have vacation to go to places we love like mountains- I no nothing about Long Island but I have heard you say- I want to be with David! I agree with Kay- if we knew everything- life would be no fun. When I was in the military who knew about Alabama, Maryland and Oklahoma- all different from New York and then to land in Kansas City- I found Linda, not too bad. If given the choice- follow the heart- not the head.

    June 14, 2004
  6. Sue said:

    Any relationship is a give and take situation…there are good and bad, ups and downs but it’s the growing together as a couple that happens when you do something "together". this oppurtunity came along for a reason,take it, work it out together and as long as you have each other, you CAN’T go wrong.

    June 14, 2004
  7. Erin said:

    My boss says go and be with him. And my friend Tasanee told me that if I don’t go, she’ll kick my butt all the way up there (LOL). I think I might tell him to take it. That will give me 5-6 months to finish things here and start looking for something for after the beginning of the year. I would really like to wait so that I can get some vacation $$$ paid back and our yearly bonus, which could help me move. I’m nervous though… I don’t handle big changes well, even though I know they sometimes have to occur. I guess I am just apprehensive. Part of me keeps thinking back to my last relationship and how dependant I grew… I think I am afraid of that happening again and I’ve grown to like some of my independance. I keep asking myself what if it doesn’t work out and that’s what’s holding me back. I think I’m just going to suck it up, tell him yes, and make plans to move in the next six months (wow, did that just come out of my mouth? – I’m scaring myself here). I have to put "us" first and stop worrying, I guess. I’ll keep you all informed…

    June 14, 2004
  8. Kay, Bob, Delaney & The Buff said:

    Erin- My advice- you will find good and bad in every opportunity that you are given. What is most important to you? If you want to be with David- then go with it. Try it- you will find somethings are great- some are not. But you can always influence the things you don’t like and make them better. Also remember- nothing is permanent. Yeah- moving sucks- I’ll give you that, but you really control the rest. Also- if everything was the way you thought it should be- what would make for the fun of LIFE. If you didn’t have challenges and issues- you wouldn’t grow and you wouldn’t learn. If it looks like a good opportunity and you a David agree- take it on and make it all that it should be. Would I have wanted to live my whole life in Washington DC- probably not- but I did a whole lot of growing there. I miss the shopping there too!! I know that probably doesn’t tell you much- but don’t stress about it and just do it (if you want)- the rest will work itself out!! Good Luck and keep us posted!

    June 14, 2004

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