“What the caterpillar calls the end of life,
the Master calls the butterfly.”
Dealing with the death of Matthew will be one of the most painful experiences of our lives. Everyone copes and mourns differently. Perhaps a few of the following suggestions can help us survive some of the difficult times.
• Take care of yourself. Eat well. Get plenty of rest. Stay well physically so that you can continue to heal emotionally.
• Express yourself. Talk about Matthew, our feelings, our fears, our grief. Or keep a diary, write a journal, create, start a flower garden. This may help us to see things more clearly.
• Read written resources. There are many books, articles, poems, and videos that can provide information, guidance, and support.
• Find a support network. Such a network may be your family, your friends, or your faith community. You may want to contact a support group for parents who have experienced the death of a baby, to share your story and feelings and to learn from others who have also “been there.”
Above all, give yourself time. Be patient. We will never forget Matthew, but we will heal. Healing is an ongoing process; it does not happen overnight. But it will happen. In the meantime- love one another and gather strength from those we cherish and love. Keep Kay, Bob and Delaney in your prayers and thoughts.