Decision…

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“Every time a heart cracks… somewhere something beautiful is being born.”

Back in 2004 when I decided to do a family blog I envisioned laughs, uplifting stories, jokes, gentle ribbing, a place to keep in touch, a place to make you feel good.
Over time…it is being used less, it has gotten more expensive and the fun place has turned more cynical and sarcastic. Today a family member told me they didn’t want to read it any more because it made them sad( sad to see the comments people are saying)- so I made a decision. I will not be renewing this page and plan to take it down soon. Thanks for several years of fun- it’s time to move on…

15 Comments

  1. Avatar Erin said:

    Mom, you are so funny! LOL! For anyone that doesn’t know what she is talking about… this past Christmas when I came home I kept quoting the Grinch with Jim Carrey when they’re flying down the hill at the end and he says to Cindy Loo Hoo, "Even if we’re horribly mangled, they’ll be no tears this Christmas!" That was my theme for my family’s Christmas b/c we tend to get a little stressed. I wanted to remind everyone to enjoy, not cry.

    January 11, 2008
  2. Avatar Kim said:

    Erin… "we may be horrrribly mangled, but there will be no tears……" ~grin~

    January 9, 2008
  3. Avatar La said:

    It’s doing well so far- lets see what happens when the bill comes in…I am a realist to get there will be down times but it needs to be used. (don’t tell anyone but I kinda like it too!)

    January 9, 2008
  4. Avatar Erin said:

    So does this mean we will keep it up for now and see how it goes? I don’t want it down. You and I both put work into it (you more than I in the posting department). Maybe we all need a New Year’s resolution to do better on posting and pictures. I might seriously cry if it goes away.

    January 9, 2008
  5. Avatar La said:

    Let me clarify- I didn’t want to stop because someone is sad- I wanted to stop because I felt there were "mean" comments being made. Those comments in turn made people sad. I know as families go- shit happens and things get said that later are taken back. We are big people but I did not want to continue putting stuff up that people felt was done to hurt or offend. I try to be fair- I try to include all- and yet, someone feels unfairly treated so I said – forget it. Then add on the time and money…
    I like this site- I believe it is special and I thank Kay for letting me think of it as "being alive" I guess I can reframe it and feel better about it.
    However- when the bill comes- let’s see how much people want this- if they do, we will continue.I have tried that before Bob- not much luck. I have a few people who faithfully send money in and I do appreciate that!
    I must say, I did find out just who reads this page (thanks dad for caring about it).
    So we go forward- the best way to ensure complete knowledge is EVERYONE post- kids and adults, share what is happening. Post a picture- if it is wrong- Erin or I will fix it.
    Last- that was not to say I feel unappreciated for the time and effort- I do it because I love it- I just don’t want to be accused of forgetting people or doing things to hurt people- maybe that is the other persons problem but it bothers me add PMS and well, meltdown…
    tomorrow, tomorrow…is a brand new day!

    January 7, 2008
  6. Avatar Bob said:

    I think we all understand that it is alot of hard work and effort, it is often forgotten! It appears that no one has a clue about the sad comments made, so please share. I know I will miss going onto the site at 2am while working, it is also a way for me to show co-workers about our adventures. Having such a big family, I miss half of whats going on, the pics let me see more. If someone explains the process, I will start posting, lots going on at our house. While I’ll understand your decision, I’ll be sad to see it go. If someone feels that strong about it, they don’t have to visit the site. Its a great way to stay in touch. There are a ton of people that would pay alot to have a family connection like this. Why don’t we split the total costs by the number of adults in the family?

    January 7, 2008
  7. Avatar Kay said:

    Every page needs to have a little drama- that means it is alive!
    Don’t get discouraged- sometimes we need to be reminded every once in a awhile that:
    1)it is a lot of work & money
    2)everyone needs to try and post and interact
    3)EVERYONE does enjoy it- that is a fact
    4) MOST IMPORTANTLY, it is TRULY SPECIAL- no one I know has anything close to this and I do believe it makes people happy- even if they don’t post- they do take the time to check in and it allows them to feel close to the family for love and support.

    Everyone needs to make a resolution to spend time sharing- it is important to the entire family. This really is truly special, just like our family, so let’s try not to take advantage of it, and just continue to add to it!

    January 7, 2008
  8. Avatar beth said:

    actually, the only person we’ve been blatently mean to on here is David and Erin still loves the site and posts regularly… so I’m not sure what the problem is, but I hope whomever it is gets over it, because I like the site.

    January 7, 2008
  9. Avatar beth said:

    I’m usually so far out of the loop, this is the only way I know what’s going on in my cute cousin’s lives. I know I’m one of the worst for posting (i’m a little better about commenting, but I don’t even post on my own website), but I do come visit almost every day. I’m surprized someone got hurt, because I’ve yet to see anything on here hurtful or blatently mean.

    January 7, 2008
  10. Avatar Kim said:

    One more thing. I cannot begin to tell you how many times i have had a bad day to get on and find my smile due to a picture or a tid-bit about a family member. I find it up-lifting on my birthday to see a place where people send a e greeting to just let ya know they remember you. Its those kinds of things i do NOT want to see go away.

    January 6, 2008
  11. Avatar Kim said:

    First of all… i am sorryif this comes across as a hurtful comment (if mine is being taken that way,) but, why should it be ruined for those who truly enjoy this page? Maybe we do not all respond daily because there are times that life gets hectic (esp at the holidays when we are trying to Christmas done or to get back into a normal schedule again,) and as far as money i will send you some for the web page. I do usually try to and just forget to do it. This year seemed more chaotic than normal! The flickr photos are a good place to store photos in an archival manner. The girls have encouraged me to get mine put there. I just really think that because a few have a gripe the rest should suffer? But it is a democracy when we have freedom of speech to vent or to joke, or aire a problem. So an occasional gripe is okay with me too as long as we are not getting hurtful or purposefully mean-spirited. This web blog does far more good than harm and for those who are away its a valuable way to stay connected to what is happening with our families. And for myself i am too lax in remembering to thank the web Mistress for all the time and effort she puts into it so again please reconsider this drastic move. (please.)

    January 6, 2008
  12. Avatar La said:

    How do you stop people from being mean, from using this as a dumping ground- I know there is positive and negative but it seems like it is so easy for us to whip out the negative, especially on family (guess we think they’ll always accept and forgive us)
    How do people stay in touch- no one comments- look at what’s up today- did anyone tell Erin what fantastic photos she took?
    It’s easy to say keep it when when only a hand full of people are footing the bill- it isn’t cheap to have this page and the flickr account and it takes lots of time to add information everyday to make it interesting. Done with good intention but accused of being hurtful, leaving people out, only posting certain people (they are the only ones who send photos).
    It just doesn’t seem worth it any more… I don’t want to have to psychoanalyze everything I do here for fear of hurting someones feelings or starting world war III. Maybe if it goes away for awhile people we appreciate what they had.

    January 6, 2008
  13. Avatar Erin said:

    I second the motion to keep it up. I am truly sorry that someone finds sadness in this page, but maybe we need to work together to see why it makes them sad and remedy to fix it! We can come up with a solution. Being far away, it is a way for me to hear the stories and news that I normally would not.

    January 6, 2008
  14. Avatar Farley said:

    This distresses me greatly!!!!!

    January 6, 2008
  15. Avatar Kim and Clark said:

    Its a place to keep in touch with those who we do not see every day and i for one hope you keep up this page because it is part of my every day routine. I feel like its a place to smile and see pics of the babies. PLEASE reconsider the decision not to renew. Whoever is sad, find a place to seek a smile with this page. I vote we keep the website and just be reminded why we have it.

    January 6, 2008

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