Category: Causes





On March 19, Fred Phelps of the Westboro Baptist Church passed away in the night. Who will picket the funeral of the man who picketed so many? Let’s hope, no one.

First because there may be no funeral to picket, and second because — well, we’re better than that.

I know the urge to celebrate his passing is strong. Instead, let’s celebrate all the good he accomplished in his life — completely inadvertently.

It’s a fitting conclusion to the life of someone who, in the course of committing himself so loudly and grotesquely to hate, wound up proving again and again how much love there was in people. He would show up at a funeral with his family and their hideous signs, and others would rally.

A lot of people who set out to do good and advance the cause of love don’t accomplish this much. Thank you to Mr. Phelps, in a strange, strange way, for proving us right. Hate is well-publicized, but small. Love was bigger. He showed up with his signs, and people responded with a Wall of Love. He kept achieving the opposite of what he set out to do. He faxed tons and tons of complaints about — they passed a law against fax harassment. He showed up at funerals with his Hateful Signs, and people gathered to shield the mourners.  He tested our commitment to free speech, even extreme and ugly speech, and — yup, it is still strong.

So don’t dance on the grave. Don’t cheer. It’s an understandable urge. Instead:

-Stop picketing funerals at all, ever, full stop. It is a terrible way of getting attention.
-Play with a kid. Do not hand that kid a hateful sign. Again, this should go without saying.
-Love someone.
-Send someone a thank-you note.
-Call your grandmother.
-Take a nap.
-Make a big colorful sign that says something polite. Take it to a place that is not a funeral.
-Love your neighbor.
-Stand up for someone who is being shouted down.
-Treat people like people.
-Make a sandwich.
-Feel the urge to say something hateful. Don’t succumb. Know you’re better than that. You are.

If his life kept proving anything, it was that.

The Westboro church protested the LORDE concert… (after Fred’s death)


This is what the crowd did…Beat hate with love!






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I wanted to come and thank everyone that gave their giving jars to my friend and classmate, Kristy, over the holidays when we held a giving event for her to help her through the holidays. It meant so much to her and it meant a lot to me that my family was willing to step up and help too! We’ve done a few things for her so far, including raising money to get her a Kindle to get her through her treatments. We gave that to her for her birthday back in November. Then we held a holiday giving event to get gifts and some money to help them through the holidays. It was the best Christmas her and her girls ever experienced and she cried with joy at the generosity of everyone.

Unfortunately, her story hasn’t been very pleasant and I just wanted to update everyone and ask for prayers. After having a double mastectomy and beating breast cancer, her mother ended up having it and didn’t know it. Kristy found out the day of our giving event, and her mother passed away two weeks ago. On top of that, Kristy went back to the doctor last week and found out she has two tumors in her brain now, so the cancer is back. She is a single mom of two girls; the youngest is only 9. And one of the two girls has Asberger’s Syndrome (not sure which one). This girl has had a very difficult fight and I just wanted to ask for any prayers people are willing to give. She needs them all.



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What are we doing with our Christmas jars this year?


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The 13th October is Secondary Breast Cancer Awareness Day, a day dedicated to spreading the word about the incurable side of the disease, the side where there are no survivors.


For Marianne and Franci and Ralph and Baldy and…



  1. Mike Scutella- his mother died this  weekend.
  2. Tim Bailey- he has been accepted in a VA transplant program in Iowa- could happen anytime- new kidneys!
  3. Stephen Heald- going through chemo- Birthday is Oct. 4!

LYONS – Kathleen F. Mathews, 78, of DeBusse Rd., went to be with the Lord on Saturday (September 21, 2013) at the DeMay Living Center in Newark. A memorial Mass will be celebrated Wednesday (September 25) 10 a.m. at St. Joseph the Worker Parish, at St. Michael’s Church, Lyons. Burial will follow at South Lyons Cemetery. For those wishing , memorials may be made to the Roosevelt Children’s Center, 848 Pierson Ave., Newark, N.Y. 14513.Kathleen was born May 17, 1935 in Rochester, a daughter to the late Luke and Margaret Hogan Flanagan. She retired from Newark Developmental Center after 25 years of employment, and then worked at Roosevelt Children’s Center for the next 10 years. She survived by her husband Edward of 36 years; eight children, Edward, Patricia, Michael, Linda, Marianne, Robert, Michelle, and Joseph; many grandchildren and great-grandchildren; one great-great-grandson; sister, Gail Seebold; brother, John Flanagan; sister-in-law, Marie Flanagan; several nieces and nephews. She was predeceased by several brothers and sisters.



Hey DiSanto Family… Nana requests you help! It’s time to walk the talk…

Let’s give a DiSanto Family get well to Stephen Heald. He is going to go live with Cindy for awhile and cards, care packages or phone calls would sure help raise the spirit. Along with our prayers, we can make this happen!

 Stephen Heald, 423 13th Ave. A, Silvis, Il. 61282, 309-912-7662.



Pope Francis has invited Catholics, other Christians, those of other faiths and non-believers who are “men of good will” to join him  in St. Peter’s Square to invoke the “gift” of peace for Syria, the rest of the Middle East and worldwide where there is conflict on Saturday.

“The world needs to see gestures of peace and hear words of hope and of peace,” Francis said. On 7 September, in Saint Peter’s Square, here, from 19:00 until 24:00, we will gather in prayer and in a spirit of penance, invoking God’s great gift of peace upon the beloved nation of Syria and upon each situation of conflict and violence around the world. Humanity needs to see these gestures of peace and to hear words of hope and peace! I ask all the local churches, in addition to fasting, that they gather to pray for this intention.”



I know none of you (other than Kevin & Kristy) know Bill let alone his family but I worked with him at Carrier and now he has come to Comfort Systems. He is one of those guys that is truly salt of the earth. He mentors people like our brother when he joined Carrier and myself when I moved into National Accounts. He shared his knowledge without judgment or arrogance. He was with Carrier for over 30 years and like I said after he retired he joined me as a sales person at Comfort. He is a Giants fan and a Yankees fan (only downside he is a UConn fan (that’s where he went to school) not fond of SU J ).

Last week his daughter fell critically ill with a virus that is “eating” at her heart. She is only a year or so older than Darian. I asked to have this posted because she needs all the prayers we can muster. I know we are praying for Stephen but our family is amazing and I know we have the capacity for more and she needs it. I think if we all pray miracles can happen.

Bill wrote me this to give me an update so I share with you.


Thank you so much for your prayers for Elissa. This week has been an extreme challenge for her, and the spiritual support we have received from family and friends, and friends of friends all over the world, has been inspiring and has helped to get her to where we are today. She experienced several miracles this week, and we know they were from the hand of God, delivered through the prayers said for her, and the angels sent to watch over her. 

She is about to undergo open chest, open heart surgery to remove a large clot in her heart and have 2 ventricular assist devices installed that will allow her own heart to pump blood through her circulatory system. For people who had myocarditis, this is a bridge to recovery, as it allows the heart to mend without taxing itself. If it does not mend to the original strength, then a heart transplant will be required. 

She will need your continued prayer to help her get through this operation and allow her to lead a long happy healthy life.

Kris, thanks for being in Elissa’s corner this week. I am eternally grateful for your spiritual support of my daughter. 

Attached are some pictures so you can visualize Elissa. 


Elissa is in stable condition (a relative term) in cardiac icu recovery. She barely has a heartbeat, and the ventricular pumps keep the blood flowing in her circulatory system. Long boring days are what we want now. 

It’s too early to determine if her heart will mend or if she will require a heart transplant. She is alive, a tough fighter and if I were the oddsmaker, the house money is on her walking out of the hospital intact. We are praying for a full recovery, and I already know you are joining us in those prayers.

Up to this point we haven’t really been focusing on ourselves. We eat, sleep, pray, support one another when needed and spend time with Elissa. Now that she is recovering, my tunnel vision has opened up a bit. 



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Katie formed a team “Team Bailey” for the Buffalo JDRK Walk to Cure Diabetes at the Buffalo Zoo Sunday in honor of her Dad. Thanks to all of those in the family that donated to the team in honor of her Dad and Nana.

Just so you know..

“Everyone has specific targets they have to meet to make their money.  But then why is it that many executives of  diabetes non-profits (with the exception of the JDRF), gets paid based on goals and objectives that have nothing to do with finding a cure?

We just finished our latest report  ” Are Non-Profit Executives Financially Incentivized to Deliver a Cure”, and our findings are pretty upsetting. Most of the CEO’s are rewarded on the performance of completely different criteria, such as advocacy, or how much fundraising they pull in.  Finding a cure is a large part of every organization’s mission, so why is progress towards one not incentivized at all? If they’re going to get bonuses anyway, shouldn’t the bonuses be for work that helps cure diabetics, and not for how much fundraising they gain?”

Jeff Brewer’s (CEO) son has diabetes and his number one goal is to find a cure- money goes to research! Much better place to put your donation!

Way to go Katie!