Tiny baby touched so many with love lessons
(January 3, 2005) — Every time I see a butterfly flutter past me, it brings a smile to my face. It reminds me of my baby daughter, so tiny, beautiful and free. Alexandra Helene Biek passed away on July 31, 2004. Even though she was only alive for a very short time, she taught us all so many wonderful things.
You might wonder what can be learned from a tiny baby. Lexi introduced my husband, David, and me to the wonderful, magical adventure of parenthood. She forever changed us from a couple to a family.
She made our parents grandparents, and became a big sister to her future brothers and sisters. Even though she never was able to meet them, Alexandra touched the lives of many people in our community.
We received hundreds of letters, cards, e-mails and phone calls. So many people told us how Lexi’s life and death helped them to put things into perspective in this crazy, fast-paced world, to slow down and appreciate life more.
A messy house and deadlines at work became unimportant, and apple picking and kite flying with friends and family a priority. When kissing their children and grandchildren, they hold them just a little bit tighter now.
Life is all about attitude. Alexandra was very opinionated, not passive in the least! She was always extremely active, letting us know exactly what she was feeling. It was this fighting spirit or, as my family called it, her “babytude” that encouraged me to fight through my grief to help other parents and babies.
I’ve recently become a volunteer artist for www.memoryboxes.org, a nonprofit organization that creates memory boxes for hospitals to give to parents who lose their babies so they don’t have to leave empty-handed.
On every box I create, I paint a butterfly to honor Lexi. Next time you see a pretty butterfly flutter past, send baby Lexi my love. I’ll bet she brings a smile to your face, too. Most people only dream of meeting angels; I held one in my arms.
ANGELICA GALINEY BIEK